The Ripple Effect of a Diagnosis
A diagnosis rarely impacts only the person receiving it. The emotional shock, uncertainty, and practical challenges often ripple outward, touching partners, children, parents, and close friends. You may find yourself taking on new roles—caregiver, advocate, organiser—on top of your existing responsibilities.
This shift can be sudden and intense, and while you may gladly step into that role, it can also bring stress, fatigue, and moments of feeling overwhelmed.
The Emotional Weight of Support
Supporting a loved one through treatment, hospital visits, or lifestyle changes can trigger a range of emotions:
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Fear about the future.
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Helplessness when you can’t take away their pain.
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Frustration at the limits of what you can do.
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Guilt for thinking about your own needs.
These feelings are natural—and they don’t make you selfish. They make you human.
Why Self-Care Isn’t Selfish
It’s easy to put your own needs aside when someone you love is unwell. But running on empty helps no one. You can’t pour from an empty cup, and burnout is a real risk for long-term supporters and caregivers.
Self-care doesn’t have to mean big gestures. It can be as small as:
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Taking a 10-minute walk to clear your mind.
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Saying “yes” when someone offers help.
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Setting aside moments to connect with friends who lift you up.
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Practising simple breathing or grounding techniques when stress builds.
How Counselling Can Help
Counselling offers a safe, non-judgemental space to talk about your feelings without worrying about burdening the person who’s ill. It can help you:
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Process your emotions without bottling them up.
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Learn healthy coping strategies.
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Navigate changes in family dynamics.
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Explore ways to set boundaries while still being present for your loved one.
A counsellor can also help you identify support networks, resources, and self-care practices that fit your life—so you can sustain your role without losing your sense of self.
Caring for Them, Caring for You
Loving and supporting someone through a life-changing diagnosis is a profound act of compassion. But compassion must extend to yourself, too. By tending to your own wellbeing—whether through rest, boundaries, or professional support—you ensure you can show up for them not just today, but in the months and years ahead.
Remember: You matter in this story, too.