In my work with clients, I often see how difficult it can be to trust our own judgement. Many of us have learned to look outward for reassurance — to ask others what’s right, what’s acceptable, or what’s expected. But learning to trust yourself begins with knowing yourself: understanding your values, your emotions, and your truth.

This self-awareness naturally strengthens how you communicate with others. When you can express yourself with clarity and kindness, you start to hear your own voice more clearly — and that voice becomes a reliable source of guidance.

Don Miguel Ruiz’s The Four Agreements offers a simple yet profound framework for building this kind of self-trust. Let’s explore how these principles can support you in communicating with authenticity and confidence.

How we speak — to ourselves and others — shapes the way we see the world.

Being “impeccable” with your word isn’t about perfection; it’s about integrity. It means speaking from a place of honesty and care, both inwardly and outwardly.

Notice your inner dialogue. Is it kind, supportive, or critical? The words you use toward yourself set the tone for how you make decisions and navigate relationships. When your communication aligns with your values, it becomes easier to trust your own choices.

It’s human to internalise others’ opinions or emotions, especially when we value connection. But not everything directed toward you truly belongs to you.

When you can pause before absorbing another person’s reaction, you create space for reflection. That space allows you to respond rather than react — to anchor yourself in your own perspective rather than being pulled by someone else’s.

This is where self-trust deepens: in the moment you realise that your worth and your wisdom aren’t determined by others’ responses.

Assumptions often arise when we feel uncertain. We imagine what others think, or what they expect, and those stories can create unnecessary tension.

Choosing curiosity over assumption is an act of courage. It’s saying, “I’d rather seek understanding than stay in the unknown.”

When you ask questions or clarify meaning instead of guessing, you’re not only improving communication — you’re affirming that your desire for truth outweighs the need for certainty. Over time, this strengthens your ability to trust your perceptions and your emotional intuition.

Your “best” will look different from day to day, and that’s okay.

Some days, doing your best might mean setting a boundary or having a difficult conversation. Other days, it might mean simply showing up for yourself in small, quiet ways.

When you allow yourself that grace — to do what you can, with what you have, in this moment — you begin to release perfectionism and self-criticism. That gentleness toward yourself builds a stable foundation for self-trust.

Trusting your own judgement is not about always being right; it’s about being honest, present, and compassionate with yourself.

When you know who you are and can communicate that truth with clarity and kindness, you begin to feel more at home in your decisions. You can listen to others without losing your own voice.

The Four Agreements remind us that self-awareness and communication are deeply intertwined. Each time you practise honesty, curiosity, and compassion — in words, thoughts, or actions — you strengthen your relationship with yourself.

And that’s where trust begins: in the quiet confidence of knowing you can rely on your own inner wisdom.

You might like to ask yourself:

Small moments of awareness can open the door to lasting self-trust.

If you’re finding it difficult to trust your judgement or communicate what you truly feel, you don’t have to navigate that alone.
At Therapy Bay, I offer a calm and supportive space where you can explore your thoughts, emotions, and relationships at your own pace. Together, we can work on strengthening your self-awareness, confidence, and communication — helping you reconnect with the part of you that already knows what you need.